The subject of infertility has been discussed for many years. There have been numerous books written on the subject and there have been numerous interviews done with doctors and the women that have had to deal with this issue. And while there is rarely an issue that touches a woman more deeply than infertility, there is also another side to this subject matter. There has been very little information offered in the way of men when it comes to infertility. While many men deal with low sperm count or a lack of testosterone, there is little information given for men that live with a woman who deals with infertility. This is the object of this article. I wanted to take a moment and express a point of view from the man.
Infertility is hard for women. As a man, as a husband, infertility is crippling. Allow me to explain. As a man it is my job to love and care for my wife. It is my default setting to want to fix whatever is broken. This is why so many marriages fall apart. Men are fixers and women simply desire someone to listen. When my wife learned of her infertility, I wanted to fix it. But that was not the answer. I couldn’t fix it. What I could do is be a good husband and listen to her. If your wife is dealing with this horrible issue then I would encourage you to listen. Do not shrug it off and do not try to “fix” it. Be a good, supportive husband and listen to your wife. Go with her to her doctor. Be a part of the dialogue and make sure that she knows how much you care.